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Monday, May 22nd, 2006GROWING WITHOUT SCHOOLING
Issue #14
GOOD NEWS FROM ONTARIO
From Mary Syrett:
…We experienced fantastic growth in the GWS movement in Canada in the last two years. GWS groups are starting in every province - some started by people in our group sub! Every few weeks I get a phone call from another mother who has got my name from your directory or from Wendy Priesnitz’s (Natural Life Magazine), or just through word of mouth. It feels like “new roots”!..
GETTING INTO COLLEGE . . .
From an article on home schooling in the Wall Street Journal, 9/13/79:
…University admissions officers confirm that a home education needn’t be a deficient education. Each year the University of California at Berkeley gets a half dozen or so applicants who are home educated and don’t have the traditional credentials, says Robert L. Bailey, director of admissions and records. “We give them proficiency tests, and if they pass them, we go ahead and take a chance on them,” he says. “They usually do very well.”…
. . . AND STAYING OUT
The reply by the Indians to the Virginia colonists who had proposed to educate six Indian boys at Williamsburg College in 1774:
We know that you highly esteem the kind of learning taught in those Colleges, and that the Maintenance of our young Men, while with you, would be very expensive to you. We are convinced, therefore, that you mean to do us Good by your Proposal; and we thank you heartily. But you, who are wise, must know that different Nations have different Conceptions of things; and you will therefore not take it amiss, if our Ideas of this kind of Education happen not to be the same with yours. We have had some Experience of it. Several of our young People were formerly brought up at the Colleges of the Northern Provinces; they were instructed in all your Sciences; but, when they came back to us, they were bad Runners, ignorant of every means of living in the woods, … neither fit for Hunters, Warriors, nor Counsellors, they were totally good for nothing. We are, however, not the less oblig’d by your kind Offer, tho’ we decline accepting it; and, to show our grateful Sense of it, if the Gentlemen of Virginia will send us a Dozen of their Sons, we will take Care of their Education, instruct them in all we know, and make Men of them.
NEWS FROM IOWA
From the Des Moines Register, 1/18/80:
…According to Larry Bartlett an administrative consultant for the Iowa State Department of Public Instruction, between 600 and 800 Iowa pupils are enrolled in correspondence type instruction, and the numbers are growing…
CELEBRITY UNSCHOOLERS
From THE BOOK OF LISTS (by Wallechinsky, Wallace, & Wallace):
15 FAMOUS PEOPLE WHO NEVER GRADUATED FROM GRADE SCHOOL: Andrew Carnegie, Charlie Chaplin, Buffalo Bill Cody, Noel Coward, Charles Dickens, Isadora Duncan, Thomas Edison, Samuel Gompers, Maksim Gorky, Claude Monet, Sean O’Casey, Alfred E. Smith, John Philip Sousa, Henry M. Stanley, Mark Twain.
20 FAMOUS HIGH-SCHOOL OR SECONDARY-SCHOOL DROPOUTS: Harry Belafonte, Cher, Mary Baker Eddy, Henry Ford, George Gershwin, D. W. Griffith, Adolf Hitler, Jack London, Dean Martin, Bill Mauldin, Rod McKuen, Steve McQueen, Amedeo Modigliani, Al Pacino, Will Rogers, William Saroyan, Frank Sinatra, Marshal Tito, Orville Wright, Wilbur Wright.
20 FAMOUS PEOPLE WHO NEVER ATTENDED COLLEGE: Joseph Chamberlain, Grover Cleveland, Joseph Conrad, Aaron Copland, Hart Crane, Eugene Debs, Amelia Earhart, Paul Gauguin, Kahlil Gibran, Ernest Hemingway, Rudyard Kipling, Abraham Lincoln, H. L. Mencken, John D. Rockefeller, Eleanor Roosevelt, George Bernard Shaw, Dylan Thomas, Harry S. Truman, George Washington, Virginia Woolf.
13 FAMOUS AMERICAN LAWYERS WHO NEVER WENT TO LAW SCHOOL: Patrick Henry, John Jay*, John Marshall*, William Wirt, Roger B. Taney*, Daniel Webster, Salmon P. Chase*, Abraham Lincoln, Stephen Douglas, Clarence Darrow (attended one year), Robert Storey, J. Strom Thurmond, James 0. Eastland. (* - Chief Justice of the US Supreme Court.)
PEN PALs
…The GWS Directory has afforded our children the opportunity to practice their writing and communication skills, as well as to have fun getting to know others. Our oldest daughter received a letter from a young girl who had selectcd her name from the GWS listing. She asked our daughter to be a pen pal, and they now correspond eagerly and frequently.
Our six year old, spurred on by her sister’s example, has decided to write to several children in the Directory to see if they will be pen pals. She was delighted by a recent positive response.
So far, none of the children have brought up the subject of school in their letters. There certainly are more interesting things to talk about:…
A MUSLIM FAMILY
…Like many other families who are schooling their children at home, our main reason for wanting to make this move was a religious one. In our case, however, the religion is Islam, not Christianity. We are a very committed Muslim family, and it is of the greatest importance to us that our children grow up in an atmosphere which is not destructive to their religious orientation and values. For this reason, we are obviously in total disagreement with many social and moral values (or “unvalues”) which are being propagated in schools, as well as with the limited educational approaches. Moreover, in our faith religious and other learning is not to be approached as two separate matters since Islam does not acknowledge any schism between “sacred” and “secular” aspects of life.
Our three older children had grown up in public schools, with very serious consequences to their sense of self-worth and the rightness of their values, and above all on the integratedness of their personalities. They passed through the hands of a series of junior high and high school teachers and situations in which religion, and anyone who upholds high moral and ethical values, was viewed with contempt or at least stigmatized as being very, very strange and abnormal. When my son was in the first year of junior high, we had just come back from a year overseas and the boy was feeling very much at odds with the school atmosphere. I went to the principal and expressed my concern about him, saying that he was a very religious youngster with high values. Would it not be possible to form a club or association for youngsters of similar inclinations? The response of the principal was astonishing. He told me he would look into my son’s record and behavior and talk with his counselor to see if he was really normal and fit in. Of course, you can imagine how I felt after this encounter, and the club idea naturally died of its own accord although I tried without success to interest other people in the community in it. I felt and still do feel that such an organization would be very important and meaningful to young people who care about religion and values but have no support and are even afraid to voice their opinions under prevailing conditions.
When the fourth child, Y, was old enough for kindergarten, we enrolled him in a Catholic school, hoping it would be in some significant way an improvement over public school. But it was a total disappointment, in no real way different in atmosphere or approach. Thus, toward the end of Y’s kindergarten year, seeing that there was no workable solution except to teach the children at home, I went to discuss the matter with the local superintendent of instruction.
Although he made it clear that he is not in favor of home schooling, he was helpful and cooperative. We must, he said, submit a letter to him by early summer, which he would submit to the local school board, who would in turn submit it to the state board of education. My husband and I wrote a very brief statement that “because the religion of our family, Islam, is a complete way of life which requires that religious education go hand-in-hand with secular education, the educational needs of our children cannot be met in a normal school situation.” We also mentioned that we might be spending time outside the country and hence needed to have a method of schooling which could be continued wherever we might be residing. Permission for home schooling was given under the understanding that I would be using the Calvert materials, would teach 176 days a year, and would be under the general supervision of the local school principal (i.e., would submit the Calvert tests and confer with her once a quarter, and the child would have to take standard achievement tests and end-of-the-year tests, if any, annually.)
We enrolled Y in Calvert’s second grade program as it was clear that first grade would be a complete waste of time. He is an exceptionally motivated child who loves to study and learn. In the beginning, as I was very uncertain of my ability to “teach” since I had no teaching experience at all, the structuredness of the Calvert material was tremendously helpful and reassuring. However I have since left its method largely behind as it moves much too slowly for the child, who is now proceeding at his own pace. The younger child, H (3 1/2) was a bit of a problem in the beginning. She wanted a great deal of attention and was not satisfied to spend the school period simply playing. I began working with her very gradually, assisted ably by Y, who spent long periods teaching her out of pre-school workbooks. She is now learning to read and enjoying the experience greatly. I expect to start her “formal” education with second grade after working with her in a completely unstructured manner until she reaches that level. I spend the first part of the school time working on religious studies with Y. Afterwards I work with H while Y continues with the Calvert and supplementary material on his own. My role is as a resource person rather than as a teacher standing over a child to “teach” him what he can easily learn on his own.
The experience of teaching my children has given me endless new insights concerning the role of parents (especially mothers), both what it is for most of us and what it could and should be, and the nature and meaning of education. I cannot express what a satisfaction it is to see my children growing up with stable, integrated, happy personalities, especially after the struggle of watching the harmful effects of school on the three older children…
A WAY TO HELP
As most GWS readers know, Linda and Bob Sessions (IA), their children, and I were on the Phil Donahue show on Dec. 7, 1978. It was aired over various stations for the next two or three months. Because of the show, we received about 10,000 letters, which is about 100 times as great a response as we have ever had from any other article or TV show. Most of the people who have subscribed during this past year did so because of that program.
We still get letters now and then from people who say, “I just saw you on the Donahue show.” This tells us that certain local stations are repeating that particular program which suggests in turn that one thing people could do to help GWS would be to ask their local TV station to re-run that particular show.
We have a list of stations carrying the Donahue show, in case you have trouble finding the appropriate station in your area.
Please let us know what your local station says when you write or call them, and whether they decide to re-run the program. Thanks for what ever you can do.
SKILLED CHILDREN
Mary Bergman wrote in the cover story of the April 1980 Home Educators Newsletter:
…These children [of home schooling families] form an exclusive student body as they are each born into the school. They take their places according to ability rather than grade level. They listen to works far above their comprehension, just to be part of the present company. In our own instance, we have one child that keeps all vehicles in top running shape, another who provides milk, eggs, and meat for the table, another who displays beautiful art work, and another who enjoys gardening.
Katrina spends several hours morning and afternoon doing her farm work, but she is the beneficiary of her own labor, keeps all the records for feed, hay, and other purchases so that she can calculate her profit when animals are sold and what man hours and money have been expended to gain that profit. I personally am not the least interested in any type of farm work and yet I know that this is developing within Katrina an ability far beyond anything that I could teach her. How much barley will a pig eat in a week, a month, till time for the market? What animais have the quickest turnover? What type of labor hours are necessary to operate a farm? I couldn’t answer any of these questions, though Katrina can, and for an eleven-year-old girl I consider that quite an accomplishment. She has a reading assignment just like the other children of 200 pages per week plus a written paper every day. She generally turns in a paper that has to do with her present projects.
It is a rare occasion that I do not get the type of workmanship out of my children that I would get out of some adult. We are presently sectioning off a room in the basement and all the partitions will be built by the children. One startling fact is that John, at age seven, has all his own tools, including a power saw and drill. He builds beautiful miniature log cabins and will be in charge of measuring and cutting boards for the partition project. He is also planning on paneling his own room. …
Kevin has repaired all my major appliances since he was kindergarten age. Recently I had to hire a repair man to come and fix my furnace motor, which turned out to be shot and had to be replaced. This repairman hadn’t been here for several years and his first question was “Why can’t Kevin fix this?” When he discovered the problem he knew that the present motor was beyond repair and he went to get another. However, he brought the burned-out one back because he felt that Kevin could use parts for it.
My dishwasher has been child repaired, my bathroom was child paneled, my toilets were child plumbed. They enjoy developing their abilitles, it saves money, and we can use this gained savings for enjoyable activities.
One more wonder that was performed by a child is the light switch which regulates the living room and hall lights. One switch turns the living room lights on while it turns the hall light off and then turns the hall light on at night when the living room lights are not needed. An electrician noticed this strange arrangement and said it couldn’t be done, but it’s been working for a long time.
We have tours through our home occasionally and people never stop marveling at the many things our children know how to do. Kevin built his own motorized three wheel all terrain vehicle, as well as helping his dad build a one-man plane. He has developed one patent and is working on another.
People often ask me how I can tolerate the children doings things that are normally only done by adults, and professionals at that. Well, I watch the children carefully and never expect one to do a job which is over his head. I experiment constantly, finding natural abilities and letting them try their wings in harmless, inexpensive ways. If a child shows an ability in a certain area such as plumbing, I try them out taking apart an elbow and putting it back together without a leak. Next comes faucets, or setting a toilet. Next might come the installation of a shower unit, and finally the child is ready to plumb a bathroom. I would have no qualms about letting my thirteen-year-old plumb my entire house. After all, he wired it for D.C. electricity when he was only eight. Our daughter Cathy is remodeling her own home now (she’s nineteen), and she has done all her own plumbing, plastering, wallpapering and carpentry. Matter of fact, that’s how she helped pay for her college education. She worked as a carpenter in an all-male shop! …
EARNNG MONEY
From Pamela Feeney Jolly, 7210 SW Philomath Blvd, Corvallis OR 97330:
Recently I have had to settle how I feel about my children and money. Until now I didn’t feel they needed money of their own because they didn’t understand its real value. When they had money from relatives it seemed to be a burden to them. They would spend it on the first thing they saw. Not because it was something they wanted but to get rid of the money. I might add here that we rarely have more money than we need just to survive so we don’t spend money as a pastime.
We are now living with relatives whose son gets an allowance. I have never liked the idea of allowances but I was made aware that our children needed to have access to money. I found ways for them to earn it. NOT by doing things they should be responsible for anyway (like picking up their messes and washing themselves) but by doing extra kinds of jobs. Mostly seasonal work like raking leaves or picking fruit. (Things they will still do for enjoyment.) I pay them $3 an hour. I realize this may seem absurd to some but I think it is just. I have always been underpaid (or not paid at all) for the work I have done. It’s not good for the self-image. I don’t want to use or insult my children in that way. I feel that if they are to be paid for work at all, they should be paid at least minimum wage.
My five year old son spent 45 minutes washing the kitchen floor (not so appropriate) and raking leaves (better). They were jobs I could have done much more thoroughly in half the time. But that is not the point. The point is that he worked as hard as he could for that 45 minutes. Much harder than anyone I’ve worked with at any job for which we were paid.
I feel my son earned the $2.25 I paid him. It is his money to spend however he chooses. I have learned not to give helpful suggestions here and to thoroughly repress my judgement that what they buy isn’t worth it. To them it is worth it, and if it isn’t, that is something they have to learn for themselves.
I remember so well the guilt and anxiety I felt over every purchase until I was 26 years old! Every single time I bought something, I thought it was my last chance. I hope my children can grow up knowing that money is a tool that they can earn and use whenever they need to…
ART EXHBIT
Judy McCahill (Md.) writes from England:
…Here is a story I think you will like. Last Saturday for some thing to do, because Dennis was out of the country, I said to the boys, “Let’s go to the art exhibit.” Sean and Kevin thought it was a wonderful idea and began discussing what sort of art they would do there and what pictures (of their own) they might bring from home. Startled, I tried to explain to them what an art exhibit was all about and they were genuinely puzzled at my trying to tell them they were just going there to look at somebody else’s pictures. Puzzled, but not deterred, S gathered his supplies, two sets of paints a brush, some paper, and a jar full of water which he handed to me to carry; and K made us all wait while he finished a full color marker pen painting of an army tank.
When we got there, we strolled along the sidewalks near the craft shop that was hosting the exhibit, dutifully examining the works and passing several fully grown and wise looking artists sitting in portable lawn chairs, all the while S at my heels urging me to find out how he was supposed to enter the show and me ahead of S, stalling.
Finally an old man who works in the shop, who once told me a long story about his difficulties getting home to Cobham one night during the war when London was being bombed, greeted me. I introduced S to him and asked him to explain what an art exhibit was. He started to, but then he and his daughter, who also works in the shop, saw that S was ready to do some work and after a good laugh with a couple of customers over it, gave him a couple of nice big pieces of “card” to paint on. He sat on the doorstep of a small office building nearby and painted, while the rest of us strolled through the exhibit again, windowshopped, and ate ice cream cones.
When he had finished, it was a beautiful picture of a black dog, fur flying, running up a hill on a windy day, a glorious sun in the sky. It seemed to reflect his mood of magic. He took the picture into the shop, where the man said he would put it on sale for 50 pence (and confusedly explained about how the artists had to pay rent to the exhibit), and we went home.
A few days later, still full of the experience, S told a friend of mine about it. She promptly went out to buy the picture, and it was gone! When I suggested to S that he go and check to see if his painting had been sold, he replied that he already had, the next day (which of course was Sunday), and the shop was closed.
And that was that. He was too busy doing something else to give it another thought. Not to belabor this point, I must say that I’ve noticed this before in the children, that it’s the doing of a piece of work that matters, and not what happens to it afterwards…
THE BEST WORK
From Manas, 10/31/79:
…In a recent Ecologist Quarterly, Edward Goldsmith said: “Obviously the most satisfying work must be that which we are willing to do for nothing.” With all the sententious talk, these days, about the legitimacy and importance of profits, it becomes vital to point out that the best work is done by people who do it, not for money, but because it is right and good and necessary. They may get a little money, but barely enough to get by. The only sensible way to look at money is as an instrument of freedom to do what you care about and are determined to do anyway…
Q. & A.
Questions from a mother’s letter, and the answers I gave:
Q. My greatest concern is that I don’t want to slant my children’s view of life all through “mother colored” glasses…
A. If you mean, determine your children’s view of life, you couldn’t do it even if you wanted to. You are an influence on your children, and an important one, but by no means the only one, or even the only important one. How they later see the world is going to be determined by a great many things, many of them probably not to your liking, and most of them out of your control. On the other hand, it would be impossible, even if you wanted to, not to have some influence on your children’s view of life.
Q. I also wonder if I can have the thoroughness, the follow-through demanded, the patience, and the continuing enthusiasm for a diversity of interests they will undoubtedly have.
A. Well, who in any school would have more, or even as much? I was a good student in the “best” schools, and very few adults there were even slightly concerned with my interests. Beyond that, you may expect too much of yourself. Your children’s learning is not all going to come from you, but from them, and their interaction with the world around them, which of course includes you. You do not have to know everything they want to know, or be interested in everything they are interested in. As for patience, maybe you won’t have enough at first; like many home teaching parents, you may start by trying to do too much, know too much, control too much. But like the rest, you will learn from experience - mostly, to trust your children.
Q. I get the impression that most unschoolers live on farms growing their own vegetables (which I’d like) or have unique life styles in urban areas, and heavy father participation in children’s education. What about suburbanites with modern-convenienced homes and fathers who work for a company 10 to 12 hours a day away from home? What differences will this make? Will unschooling work as well?
A. Well enough. You and your children will have to find out as you go along what differences they make, and deal with them as best you can. Once, people said that the suburbs were the best of all possible worlds in which to bring up children; now it is the fashion to say they are the worst. Both views are exaggerated. In city, country, or suburb, there is more than enough to give young people an interesting world to grow up in, plenty of food for thought and action. You don’t have to have everything in the way of resources for your children, and if you did, they wouldn’t have enough time to make use of all of it.
Q. Is the father’s involvement crucial?
A. It can certainly be helpful, but it is not crucial. Some of the most successful unschoolers we know of are single mothers. And there may be many others we don’t know about.
Q. What if the children want to go to school?
A. This is a hard question. There is more than one good answer to it, and these often conflict. Parents could argue, and some do, that since they believe that school can and probably will do their children deep and lasting harm, they have as much right to keep them out, even if they want to go, as they would to tell them they could not play on a pile of radioactive wastes. This argument seems more weighty in the case of younger children, who could not be expected to understand how school might hurt them. If somewhat older children said determinedly and often, and for good reasons, that they really wanted to go to school, I would tend to say, let them go. How much older? What are good reasons? I don’t know. A bad reason might be, “The other kids tell me that at school lunch you can have chocolate milk.”
Q. Since people feel that as a religious group (Christian Scientists) we neglect our children (which is not the case), I’m concerned that someone might be eager to take us to court and take away our children.
A. The schools have in a number of cases tried - shamefully - to take children away from unschooling parents. I think there are legal counters to this, strategies which would make it highly unlikely that a court would take such action. And if worse came to worst, and a court said, “Put your children back in school or we’ll take them away,” you can always put them back in while you plan what to do next - which might simply be to move to another state or even school or judicial district.
Q. I don’t want to feel I’m sheltering my children or running away from adversity.
A. Why not? It is your right, and your proper business, as parents, to shelter your children and protect them from adversity, at least as much as you can. Many of the world’s children are starved or malnourished, but you would not starve your children so that they would know what this was like. You would not let your children play in the middle of a street full of high-speed traffic. Your business is, as far as you can, to help them realize their human potential, and to that end you put as much as you can of good into their lives, and keep out as much as you can of bad. If you think - as you do - that school is bad, then it is clear what you should do.
Q. I value their learning how to handle challenges or problems…
A. There will be plenty of these. Growing up was probably never easy, and it is particularly hard in a world as anxious, confused, and fear-ridden as ours. To learn to know oneself, and to find a life worth living and work worth doing, is problem and challenge enough, without having to waste time on the fake and unworthy challenges of school - pleasing the teacher, staying out of trouble, fitting in with the gang, being popular, doing what everyone else does.
Q. Will they have the opportunity to overcome or do things that they think they don’t want to do?
A. I’m not sure what this question means. If it means, will unschooled children know what it is to have to do difficult and demanding things in order to reach goals they have set for themselves, I would say, yes, life is full of such requirements. But this is not at all the same thing as doing something, and in the case of school usually something stupid and boring, simply because someone else tells you you’ll be punished if you don’t. Whether children resist such demands or yield to them, it is bad for them. Struggling with the inherent difficulties of a chosen or inescapable task builds character; merely submitting to superior force destroys it.