Living by Principles Instead of by Rules

“Children who live surrounded by rules, instead of learning about principles, end up becoming adept at getting around rules, finding the loopholes in rules, disguising non-compliance, or deflecting blame for non-compliance (i.e. lying about what they did). These are the skills that they then bring into adult life.” ~ Robyn Coburn

“Often a child’s very gifts (his great intensity of feeling, depth of experience, curiosity, intelligence, quickness—and his ability to be critical) will confront his parents with conflicts that they have long sought to keep at bay by means of rules and regulations.” ~ Alice Miller

“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing and falling over.” ~ Richard Branson

“The only sensible way to live in this world is without rules” ~ Joker

“Don’t be a slave to stupid rules” ~ Jordan Peterson

“Any fool can make a rule, and any fool will mind it.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

“If I’d followed all the rules I’d never have gotten anywhere” ~ Marilyn Monroe

“Society cannot contribute anything to the breeding and growing of ingenious men. A creative genius cannot be trained. There are no schools for creativeness. A genius is precisely a man who defies all schools and rules, who deviates from the traditional roads of routine and opens up new paths through land inaccessible before. A genius is always a teacher, never a pupil; he is always self-made.” ~ Ludwig von Mises

“When people say that school prepares children for the real world, what’s implied is that it is the difficult parts of school (doing things you don’t want to do, forced interaction with peers, following rules that you don’t believe in) that are important. What’s implied is that the real world is going to be an unhappy place and that being treated unfairly by people is a part of life.

It may be a part of life in school, but it is not a part of our lives. School is as far away from the real world as possible. In school we learn that we cannot control our own destinies and that it is acceptable to let others govern our lives. In the real world we can take responsibility for choosing our own paths and governing our own lives. The real world is what we make it.” ~ Rue Kream, [The Unschooling Unmanual]

“If you punish a child for being naughty, and reward him for being good, he will do right merely for the sake of the reward; and when he goes out into the world and finds that goodness is not always rewarded, nor wickedness always punished, he will grow into a man who only thinks about how he may get on in the world, and does right or wrong according as he finds advantage to himself.” ~ Immanuel Kant

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Principles Not Rules: Living & Learning in the Real World by Robyn Coburn
Unschooling is About Principles Not Rules

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